Can we find some better way?

[marjaerwin]

Can we find some better way to discuss the creeps without demonizing the folks who fall in love with their friends or don't feel safe enough to let themselves fall in love with anyone but their trusted friends?

I’m getting sick of the denunciations of nice guys/nice girls. I know everyone’s aiming at the creeps, but all too often they hit the socially awkward folks, the demisexual folks, the other folks who fall in love with their friends, the loveshy folks, and the folks who are survivors, or trans, or struggling with body image issues, who don’t want to be romantic with someone they aren’t already close friends with.

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[sister-bluebird.livejournal.com]

Hunh. Obviously inhabiting different portions of the Internet, cause I hadn't seen anyone taking shots at people who date friends. Mostly seeing anger at people who initiate friendships for the purpose of sex or who ditch their friends when sex does not occur.

If you're seeing folks saying that people who date their friends are awful, that's just absurd. I don't understand how people get involved with anyone they don't have a friend connection with. :/